Our brief visit to Japan was very enlightening. It was clear the Japanese people are a proud and apparently introverted people. Proud of their unique culture but still wary of the non-Japanese tourists. They have suffered enormously through wars and natural disasters given they live in one of the most disaster-prone regions of the world which presumably contributes to their communal spirit.
I had not realised that before the hydrogen bombs dropped on Hiroshima and Nagasaki by the US in August 1945, the US had carpet bombed Tokyo destroying much of the city. Very little of pre-WWII buildings are still present in Tokyo. The high civilian casualties of these events must have left enormous generational suffering and traumas.
A critical component of Japanese culture is the importance of not embarassing someone – indeed, the law of defamation even holds in Japan if what is claimed is true but it has caused public embarassment – this law may not apply to internal family dynamics where frustrations of life and living may play out unconstrained
The following is a candid photo I took as I walked through the gardens near Shinjuku, Tokyo and this man caught my eye. I can’t even imagine what this man and his family may have gone through, and yet, he is a survivor, not only of the war, but also of Japan’s high suicide rate which hides what casual tourists do not see, and perhaps much stems from their underlying culture – the good and the bad.
There seems to be an underlying sadness in his face
As he gazes across the sunny Spring fields of yet another Golden week what memories does it trigger?
Is it those of past desires and unrequited love?
What of seeing children playing in the gardens?
Is it grief and sorrow from his losses?
Does it trigger PTSD from the distant past of his family yelling at him for his perceived failings despite his continuous efforts to provide security for them? Perhaps everywhere he looks, reminds him of what he could have done better.
Despite all of these he may feel content that as his life is nearing its end, he has inner peace of knowing he has tried hard, that it is OK not to have been perfect (the Japanese concept of wasi-sabi) and that he has had gaman – the Japanese concept of being patient and perservering through difficulties.
And in the end, he is still alone as he has probably been in reality much of his life, but he can enjoy the rich benefits of still being able to get out into nature and enjoy Shinrin-yoku, or “forest bathing” which is an important part of de-stressing in Japanese culture.
I would have loved to have had a long chat with him – but alas I couldn’t